A Message From Above
Happy March every one! I hope you have a good jump into Spring! Maybe even deal with some things sitting on your shoulders.
Maybe the thing weighing heavy on your shoulders is the guilt that goes along with someone’s death. Recently I was talking to someone who had just lost a friend and they immediately felt guilty about not communicating with the friend as much. We all deal with guilt and many kinds of guilt when a close friend or loved one dies because it is part of the grieving process. Do not worry, my friend, I will not bore you with the 5 steps to grieving or however many it is. I will help you to accept the fact that there is absolutely nothing you can do now and worrying is not going to fix it either.
If you have not noticed yet, death is permanent. Meaning you can not take it back, you can not take back what was said or done, neither can they, and you can not go back for one last hug good-bye.
You CAN, however, accept it as it is.
“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to accept the things I can change, and the wisdom to know the difference” – Reinhold Niebuhr
For the longest time after my grandma’s death I felt so guilty that I never got to say good-bye to her. It ate me alive that I did not visit her as often as I could have in her last years. I knew her life was coming to an end soon so I volunteered my high school’s Key Club, a club that does community service, to take Valentine’s Day cards to the home my grandma was staying in. I could not wait to see her and make sure all the others felt loved on that day. At the last minute I got sick and decided against going and infecting anyone. The next month she died and I was devastated.
We can feel guilty all we want but it will not change anything; we can only learn that they are at peace now. I know that my grandma watches over all her grandchildren and our whole family growing and prospering in life and that she ONLY has happiness in Heaven!
I know she loved me.
I know she knows I loved her.
She knows of the new people in our lives, and may have even sent them our way.
She is at peace in every aspect and in good hands.
She guides us and is with us every single day.
She is not upset,
She loves us all.
She is a mom, an aunt, a sister, a cousin, a daughter, but most of all a grandma <3